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Bardstown girl who committed suicide leaves uplifting message from the grave

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Melanie Hack shows us pictures of Reagan hanging in the family's home. Melanie Hack shows us pictures of Reagan hanging in the family's home.
A still frame from Reagan's video. A still frame from Reagan's video.
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LOUISVILLE, Ky. (WDRB) -- A Bardstown girl was bullied to the breaking point and she left a haunting message from the grave.

It's a message one therapist wants all parents will share with their children. 

Like most proud moms, Melanie Hack fills her home with pictures of her kids and happy times. 

"This is Reagan when she was a baby and her little angel wings on," she said, pointing to one of the photos of her daughter, Reagan Carter. 

Now, they are gut-wrenching reminders of what was; and what will never be.

"Very beautiful, smart, always made people laugh always wanted to help other people." 

In 2014, a week before Christmas, Reagan did the unthinkable. It's something Hack is still struggling to understand.

"She came home and impulsively took some prescription cough medicine," Hack said.

The seventh grader told her mother what she'd done, but it was already too late. Reagan's heart stopped, she slipped into a coma and died two days before Christmas.

"Her last words to me were she was tired of everybody hating her," she said. 

Fighting back the tears, Hack explains how months of repeated bullying at Bardstown Middle School and online drove the seventh grader to the breaking point. They were messages filled with comments too obscene for us to repeat.

But not even her family or friends knew just how much Reagan was hurting. Yet even in her despair, the 12-year-old was still thinking of others.

"It was like she was talking from the grave," Hack said. 

Unknown to her mom, Reagan made a video weeks before she died.

The family found it on an old computer months later and, on what would have been her 14th birthday, shared it on Facebook.

"I've actually realized that there's a lot of people out there who are going through a really tough time," Reagan says in the video. 

"That's a perfect example of what a caring person and compassionate person that she was to make that video," her mom said.

Encouraging other victims of bullies and peer-pressure to stay strong.

"Put down the pills, put down the whatever, because I love you. And I want you to live," Reagan says in the video.

"I still feel with every bit of my heart that she didn't mean to die," Hack said.

After watching the video, Seven Counties family therapist Gloria Berry agrees.

"You could see some sadness in her eyes," Berry said, watching the video. "I think she wanted people that were being cruel to her to realize how much she was hurting."

As Berry says, it's often the case with suicides.

"She had all the right answers yet she ended up doing this," she said. "I think she thought that she would be saved and that it would be a good message of stop doing this."

While she never met Reagan, she believes by encouraging others, the seventh grader was trying to come to terms with her own pain.

Referencing the Infinity symbol on her wrist, a reminder not to harm yourself. But Berry warns children are impulsive and don't always realize the full ramifications of their actions.

"A lot of times kids don't know that when they make an impulsive decision that it could be final," she said.

"Just to hear her say those words, it was like she was reaching out," Hack said.

Something Melanie agonizes over every single day, but hopes sharing Reagan's message will spare other families her pain.

"Put the knife down, put the razor down, put the gun down, whatever you're using, put it down," Reagan says in the video. "Because you have way more to live for."

"I wish she would have remembered that in that moment in time," Hack said.

As for the girls accused of bullying Reagan, Hack wants them to get counseling.

If you or someone you know is thinking about suicide, contact the crisis Line (502) 589-8070 or (502) 589-4313.

You can watch or download Reagan's video in the link below.

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